Some experiences I’ve seen online look super extreme, and while I’m curious, I wonder if every session has to be like that. What if someone wants more emotional control or a power shift that’s less about pain and more about dynamic tension? How do you communicate what you want, especially if you're not sure what that is yet? I’m at the edge of this world but not sure how deep to go.
Not every experience needs to be extreme or rough. Subtle dominance, verbal control, and psychological teasing can be even more powerful depending on what you respond to. A really good example of this softer but still commanding approach is showcased in https://ball-busting.cc/2915-ballbusting-chickss-hera-female-therapist/. Hera doesn’t just dominate physically — she guides, evaluates, and adapts like a skilled professional. Watching how she builds the session helped me realize how much of this is about understanding boundaries and deep trust.
That’s exactly what I’ve been trying to figure out — whether intensity equals authenticity. Seeing examples like this where there’s control without chaos gives me a new angle to consider. Feels good knowing others are asking similar questions.
